An Announcement… And Why I’ve Been Quiet

12414485_s-1Yes folks, I know I’ve been very quiet over the past month.

I haven’t really published anything new on the blog. Apart from responding to your comments and emails, I didn’t add anything new.

And no, it had nothing to do with the last few episodes of “Breaking Bad”… (but weren’t they awesome? Never mind, we’ll talk about that another time).

Before I get to my announcement, let me already tell you that this is one helluva long post. You might want to sit down or something.

 

First of all, thank you for all the inquiries about my silence. I’m really touched by your messages, especially the ones asking if I’m ok health-wise. Yes, I’m perfectly fine. My beer-belly has seen a little too much beer and wine in this last month but other than that, I’m in top condition.

It’s also great to have a loyal reader base that eagerly awaits my new content. Imagine the opposite where none of you even noticed that I’ve not updated the blog? That would’ve been really sad.

And finally to answer one last question from you, no, I haven’t lost interest in the LBSS blog either. Far from it! It’s true that I did say in one podcast session that I now only do things that bring me joy, but know that I consider this blog as one of those joyful activities. It’ll take a lot more before I start to get bored with it.

Now, on to the “why?”…

 

“I like to move it move it”… back to Sri Lanka

As of Thursday, October 3rd, I’m thrilled to announce that I have moved back to Sri Lanka!

This move demanded a lot of my time and attention. There were my companies in Monaco to shut down, there was a container full of my stuff to be shipped, there were phone contracts to cancel, and there were friends to say “au revoir” to, the last one which explains the excessive beer and wine. I just couldn’t find the time to update the blog.

I’ve spent a wonderful and memorable 13 years in Monaco but I felt that it was time for me to come back home. As much as I hold Monaco in a special place of my heart (and I always will), I simply was running out of reasons to continue living there.

I’ve narrowed this decision down to 2 main reasons:

Reason 1: Deciding to only do work that brings me joy

As most of you know from my About Page, my background is in Finance. As long as I worked in Finance, which is generally known to be an industry with higher monetary compensation, maintaining the somewhat ‘fancy schmancy’ lifestyle I had created for myself was not at all an issue. Monaco is a GREAT place to live but, in a strange justifiable way, it comes at the price of a high cost of living. I was fortunate (and not to mention, I worked my ass off) to be able to afford it.

But then I realized that Finance was not bringing me the joy that I was continuously and desperately seeking.

It didn’t make me feel alive. It didn’t make me jump out of bed in the morning. Instead, it made me hit the snooze button 15 times. It simply was not for me anymore. Yes, there was also stress that came with the job but it was NOTHING compared to the stress I felt in the pit of my stomach every time I asked myself “Seriously Dilshan, what the f*** are we doing? How long are we going to pretend this is fun?”.

And so, I made the conscious (and ultra-liberating) decision to do more of what makes me happy. This meant that I needed to drop Finance like a bad rabbit.

(I know it’s ‘habit’. Just making sure you’re still paying attention)…. :)

I can only guarantee 2 things with my work:

1) You won’t enjoy all of it;

2) I will.

– Ricky Gervais

But I had to be practical since this kind of attitude towards my work also meant that I had to rethink my financial plan and decide where I was going to live. I couldn’t reasonably expect to make the same level of income (at least not immediately) to support my Monaco lifestyle from these new projects, no matter how much I enjoyed them.
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Reason 2: Being closer to family & old friends

Both my parents live in Sri Lanka. They’re not getting any younger (side note: I’ve always found this expression funny. Isn’t this true for everyone? Aren’t we ALL getting older?… Anyway, you know what I mean).

My brother and I are very close to our parents. Call us crazy but contrary to the popular cliché, we actually like hanging out with the parents. They’re two of the nicest people I know and I wanted to be closer to them.

Then comes the rest of my family in Sri Lanka, all 100 of them… or at least it was 100 on the last count (my cousins seem to be birthing new nieces and nephews every time I look away). Here is a bunch of people who are very genuine, extremely warm, and who have an amazing way of making me feel at home.

And finally, I have all my friends from my childhood. It’s tough nowadays to meet up frequently since, unlike me, they selfishly got married and started families (ha!). However, now that I’m back and my visit doesn’t come with a departure date, I foresee many spontaneous ‘get-togethers’ with them, similar to the one we had on a fishing boat in the middle of the night during my last visit here (long story…).

 

So considering these 2 factors (amongst many others), I realized that since my work doesn’t require me to be in Monaco anymore and moreover, that I can do it from anywhere, then why not do it from my own country surrounded by my family, old childhood friends, beautiful scenery, and of course, yummy Sri Lankan food that I’ve missed so much?

 

It just made good sense to me.

The question now is: “Does this affect the Lazy But Smart Sinhala Blog (and more importantly, does it affect you)?”

The answer is: “Yes, it does… in a multitude of positive ways!”

 

We’ve just seen the calm before the storm…

My move back here means that I have access to resources that I didn’t dream of having before. After all, I am at the “source” of the Sinhala language. I’ve got a ton of new ideas on how to improve what I’m currently offering you. I’m excited.

At the same time, subsequent to the reshuffling of my priorities, I now have more free time that’ll enable me to implement the above mentioned ideas.

I’ve been “planning” for way too long. Now it’s time to pump out more quality content. A “storm” of content.

There you go folks, now you know what I’ve been up to.

We’ve all heard that quote from Lennon, “Life is what happens while we’re busy making other plans”. So I can’t really say for certain if I’ll end up living my entire life in Sri Lanka. But for now, I’m immensely proud and happy to call this beautiful island with its beautiful people my “home”.

This coming month is going to be a little messy as I settle in and as I setup shop, but I’ve already got some new blog posts in the pipeline. Expect them (and other types of content) very soon.

Thanks again for your wonderful concerned mails. I’m loving the love from all of you.

The best is yet to come, folks… I promise.

 

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42 Responses to An Announcement… And Why I’ve Been Quiet

  1. Wendy October 5, 2013 at 18:59 #

    Hi Dilshan,

    so good to hear you’re doing well. I haven’t been very active myself these past few weeks. I’ve been working on a mini-version of what you’re doing: moving to Sri Lanka… for six months. I’m leaving in a month, so it’s really time I start studying Sinhala again!
    You sound very excited and happy, I’m very happy for you!
    Maybe it would be nice to write a culture-post on Sri Lanka? I, for one, would be extremely interested to know what you have to say on my new home from November to May… :)

    Love,
    Wendy.

    • Dilshan Jayasinha October 6, 2013 at 04:49 #

      Oh wow, you’re moving too! That’s great! Yes, I am very excited and happy, thanks.

      The culture post is not a bad idea at all. In fact, I’ve been asked this by a couple of other readers too. I just need to brainstorm some ideas for content. Then it’s a matter of figuring out how to link it to the Sinhala language since that is what I want the focus of this blog to be. No worries, let me figure that out. I will start my research on it as soon as I publish a few other blog posts that are currently on the way. When I do, I probably might shoot you a draft version by email and you can tell me your initial thoughts on it, ok?

      Thanks again for the comment. By the way, nice new profile pic too. Very “Vogue” magazine-esque :)

      • Wendy October 6, 2013 at 10:02 #

        Hi Dilshan,

        I’m so excited about all this new content. I would of course love to draft read anything you write, if you like.

        I think a very specific sort of courage to make a decision like you did, money and comfort over passion and fun, and I don’t think many people possess it. So I take of my proverbial hat to you!

        Thanks for the compliment! :)

        • Dilshan Jayasinha October 8, 2013 at 08:52 #

          Thanks for the nice words.I won’t lie to you, decisions like that always come with a lot of fear but sometimes the cost of ‘not’ doing something far outweighs that fear. So it’s about deciding to “feel the fear and do it anyway”, there’s a great book with the same title I highly recommend. Take care.

      • Julie October 6, 2013 at 11:41 #

        This culture idea is great. I really want to encourage you to do that, Dilshan.
        I think the most interesting culture things are kind of all-day things, what are not to read in any travel-guides. That means, it would be interesting to have a “cultural comment” to the language things as you made for example in your session with formal und informal you with speaking with your grandfather…
        this could be related to things like: Family life and feasts, religious all day life, education system, … I would have many ideas, maybe I mail you for your brainstorming!?

        • Dilshan Jayasinha October 8, 2013 at 11:23 #

          Thanks Julie, I understand exactly what you mean by ‘Cultural comment’. And yes, I would more than be happy to receive an email from you with your ideas. That would be very helpful for me to build something on. Thanks in advance!

  2. Ivana October 5, 2013 at 19:14 #

    Great decision Dilshan. i’m sure you’ll enjoy your “new” life cause you’ve found the right reasons for it. Good luck,
    Ivana

    • Dilshan Jayasinha October 6, 2013 at 04:50 #

      Thanks Ivana, that’s very nice of you to say. Hope you’re well too.

  3. Corinne October 5, 2013 at 19:45 #

    Thank you Dilshan for the update :-).

    Corinne

  4. Savvas October 5, 2013 at 19:47 #

    Hi Dilshan,

    Great to have you back. You are a life-line to us folk who are struggling along with our Sri – -Lankan!

    Great to hear your back in beautiful Sri Lanka. I’m seriously considering moving there myself to teach English to children. At present, I’m in England getting upgrades to my English Level 5 Cert; I teach English as a foreign language. Hopefully my desire to come to your beautiful country will be realised and, who knows – maybe we will meet up.

    Keep up the wonderful work you are doing and God bless.

    • Dilshan Jayasinha October 6, 2013 at 05:07 #

      “Life-line”, that’s an outstanding compliment, thank you Savvas, I’m very flattered.

      Please do keep me posted about your potential move here, especially about your plans to teach English to children. I think that’s a great initiative. One of the main reasons I did alright in Europe, both career-wise and social-wise, can be attributed to my ability to speak English reasonably well. There are SO MANY bright kids and young people in Sri Lanka (I know because I grew up with them) whose futures are restricted just because of their limited knowledge of English. The better English they know, the more doors that’ll open for them I’m sure. Hope you see why I think we need more people like you.

      Talk to you again soon. Thanks again for the nice comment.

  5. Mahak October 5, 2013 at 19:54 #

    Nice to here from you Dilshan, glad to know everything is well.
    Hope you are enjoying your stay in Sri Lanka.
    Your podcasts have really been helpful to me, I am looking forwards to your future posts.
    Take care & enjoy the great food. :)

    • Dilshan Jayasinha October 6, 2013 at 05:15 #

      Thanks Mahak. Yes, I’ve been here only 3 days so far and have been spending it getting spoiled by the family, haha. I’ve had a cousin already show up with lamprais for lunch (don’t know if you know what it is but it’s delicious) and another who cooked some food and sent it over. Loving all the attention… Yes, I need to design the next 5 podcast sessions sometime soon. More than anything I think I need an assistant to help me implement my ideas. We’ll see.

      Thanks again and speak to you soon. BTW, was that you who registered again yesterday or do I have another ‘Mahak’ on my subscriber base?

      • Mahak October 6, 2013 at 22:47 #

        Aw! i know i can imagine I love getting amazing sri lankan food as well. No idea what lamparis is though, googled it looks interesting.
        5 podcasts sounds good I have your podcasts downloaded on my phone and listen to them repeatedly on my way to uni…and i listen to sinhalese songs and have began to understand different words .. Thanks to you :)

        .. I am a student in university so I do have some time on my hands if you need any help, do let me know :)

        I did sign up from another email id. because i wanted to download the phrase book again because I thought the link of the earlier one would have expired. So i signed up with the email I use on my Ipad.

        • Dilshan Jayasinha October 8, 2013 at 09:17 #

          If you haven’t tried it yet, then make sure you add lamprais to your bucket-list. The look of it can be a bit discouraging since it looks like one big mess, but trust me, the taste is totally worth it :)

          Thanks for offering your help. That’s very kind of you. Will let you know if need to trouble you for anything.

          We’ll talk soon. Take care.

  6. Julie October 5, 2013 at 21:15 #

    Dilshan… how cool!
    Seems you have made a great decision and I am glad to hear, that you are happy to be back home again. I wish you all the very best there, be lucky with your friends and family and the way of living there.
    Enjoy the food (hey, I can cook Sri Lankan food – if I get the ingredients here, what is sometimes a bit difficult… I’ve learned that ;-) and scare friends with some hot currys : )

    Say hello to this island – one time I will go there, haha, with my Sinhala knowledge and some cultural knowlegde…
    Take care and have a very good start there

    • Dilshan Jayasinha October 6, 2013 at 05:22 #

      Thank you for the lovely words Julie. And also, thanks for your email and also for sharing this post in your circles, that’s really cool. So many things to thank you for!

      Haha, scaring friends with hot curries was something I enjoyed too with my non-Sri Lankan friends. Actually, I used to make 2 versions of each dish, which I mockingly called the “adult” version and the “little cry-baby” version. But there was always that one friend who would be courageous to try the grown up version and watching him turn red afterward while gulping down water was always fun…

      Hope you do visit the island someday. I have a feeling you’ll really like it.

      Thanks again and speak to you soon.

  7. Ludovica October 5, 2013 at 21:35 #

    Hi Dilshan!
    Nice to hear from you!
    I think you made the best decision…following the heart.
    I will also come soon to sri Lanka for some months ;) my boyfriend is from there and I need your lesson to learn more sinhala :)!!
    thanks and good luck for your new life!
    Ludovica

    • Dilshan Jayasinha October 6, 2013 at 06:03 #

      Thanks Ludovica, I appreciate your good wishes. By the way, have you already used some of the Sinhala you’ve learned with your boyfriend? I’m curious to know what he thinks about your new knowledge of the language. I also hope you’ll have a great time here in Sri Lanka. Please let me know how it goes. Speak to you then.

  8. Michael October 6, 2013 at 03:32 #

    Best of luck on the move. My wife and I will be returning to Sri Lanka in December to visit her family. She assures me I’ll have more than once occasion to use what you’ve taught. Thanks, and keep the lessons coming.

    • Dilshan Jayasinha October 6, 2013 at 06:28 #

      Hi Michael, nice to hear from you again. That’s right, I remember you said your wife was from Colombo. I totally agree with what she said, you’ll certainly be able to use most of the phrases I’ve mentioned on the blog and in the ebook. But don’t be discouraged if you don’t immediately don’t pickup the words when someone else speaks. We Sri Lankans tend to speak at lightning speeds sometimes! That’ll come to you with time, ok? Thanks again for your message.

  9. Jo October 6, 2013 at 04:18 #

    Hi Dilshan,
    I stumbled across your blog a few days ago when I decided its time I learn some sinhalese phrases and expressions as I live in beautiful Ceylon /Colombo since 8 months and my sinhalese sadly is pretty much non existent. The only phrase I use with abundance is “Hemming yanna ” (drive slowly ) and I feel its time to elaborate.
    Your blog is the best I have stumbled upon on and its great with all the audiotorials too . I hope I will make quick progress !

    Great too you moved back to Sri Lanka – I wish you the best and looking forward to your new tutorials!

    • Dilshan Jayasinha October 6, 2013 at 06:35 #

      Hi Jo, I don’t think you should be too hard on yourself since it’s true that in Colombo you could get by without knowing much Sinhala as most of us understand English. I do know a couple of my readers who picked up “good-enough” Sinhala while working for some humanitarian projects over here but that’s because it was outside Colombo in rural areas. Give it time, you can’t entirely escape Sinhala, even in Colombo and you’re bound to pick up more phrases in addition to heming yanna :)

      Thanks also for the generous words about my blog. Very much appreciated. Hope to talk to you again soon.

  10. Cathy Cruse October 6, 2013 at 04:26 #

    Hi Dilshan, I’m sure you will be very happy back home, I’m certainly loving SL we are now staying for another year, even opening a restaurant so if you’re in need of that good SL food look us up.
    Are you considering conducting classes here? Even though I listen to your blog sometimes I get busy and there is no consistency on my part, but if I have to attend a regular class I will make time. Please think about it, I would definitely sign up !!

    • Dilshan Jayasinha October 6, 2013 at 06:54 #

      Hi Cathy,

      Thanks for the encouraging words. Regardless of how sure I may be about my decision to move here, it’s still always nice to get validation from those who’ve already done it.

      Thanks for the vote of confidence but I’m afraid that conducting classes isn’t something that fits in with what I want to do right now. But I’ll do as you requested and will think about it. Who knows, I might be eating my words soon.

      I definitely would love to drop by your new restaurant. I can never say no to Sri Lankan food. Also, please feel free to reply to this comment with a web link/directions to your restaurant so that my other readers may also know about it and perhaps come your way. I’d be happy to help.

      Thanks again for your comment.

      PS: I still have that blog post you helped me with on the back-burner. Need to publish it soon. Haven’t forgotten.

  11. Zeljka October 6, 2013 at 16:19 #

    Hi Dilshan, that was great decision, very courageous and praiseworthy. Not only you are following your heart, but you seek to fulfill your dreams in your own country, among your relatives and friends. I know that’s cheesy to say, but home is where your heart is… And if you felt that what you were doing wasn’t what you really want of your life, you did right thing to leave that behind. You’ve learnt a lot certainly, but it was time for you to move on. May all your dreams come true!

    • Dilshan Jayasinha October 8, 2013 at 09:10 #

      Thanks Zeljka (I just now replied your other comment and said “I’m sure I’ll speak to you again before your trip – and look, here I am! ha).

      Yes, as cheesy as it sounds, I agree with you about “home & heart”. In fact, there’s a word in French called ‘dépaysement’, for which there isn’t a direct translation in English. But it refers to the feeling that comes from not being in one’s home country/territory. Pretty much what we’re talking about.

      Thanks for your wonderful wishes. I appreciate it very much. Take care.

  12. Ramu October 6, 2013 at 21:18 #

    Hello.. Mr.Dilshan good, welcome back to Sri Lanka,
    i learn littel bit from your blog, i like very much, i hope you will continue what you did.
    Thank you
    Ramu.

    • Dilshan Jayasinha October 8, 2013 at 09:13 #

      Thank you Ramu. With all the wonderful emails and comments I have been receiving, including yours, I am feeling very welcome. So thanks again. I’m happy that you’re learning something from the blog. All the best and talk to you soon.

  13. Svetlana October 7, 2013 at 23:57 #

    Hi Dilshan

    Thank you for your great job – your lazy but smart singala blog is extremely interesting and useful. I love the way you teach, it is effective and enjoyable at the same time.
    I have downloaded podcasts, and looking forward to new audio sessions.
    Best wishes to you!

    • Dilshan Jayasinha October 8, 2013 at 09:21 #

      Hi Svetlana, I’m glad you like my approach as well as the podcasts. This week I’ll be focusing on some new blog posts (I just added one last night on Animal names in Sinhala) but will release the next podcast session soon. Thanks for the lovely comment and your wishes.

  14. Nalaka October 9, 2013 at 12:49 #

    Hola Dilsha,,,n

    Sorry for bieng late..I have been busy with the arrangements of winter tours in Sri Lanka,,
    Happy to hear you that you are in Sri Lanka..Also I m planing to go France next April..So little bit mes up with languages,,,Sinhala,French also English..P__ _P

    Add more important phrases like this,also numbers in Sinhala,,etc..

    Have a fun time,,Will see you in Ceylon one day…:D

    Yali Hamuwemu
    Gihin ennam

    • Dilshan Jayasinha October 9, 2013 at 17:20 #

      Thanks Nalaka. I also wish you luck with the preparation for your trip next year. All the best!

  15. Shiju krishnan u k October 16, 2013 at 20:23 #

    Thanks for the blog post “animals name in sinhala” a small audio post of that will be good for our pronuncation. Bohomo Isthoothiy. Buddu saranai.

    • Dilshan Jayasinha October 17, 2013 at 07:22 #

      But there are audio clips next to each animal name. Just making sure you’re seeing it (unless your browser does not show it).

  16. Kumi November 6, 2013 at 11:44 #

    Hey Dilshan, thanks to your blog my learning of Sinhala is going pretty smooth. It’s hard to believe some of my Srilankan friends have complemented on my pronunciation. Once again thanks for doing a great job. You may not be professionally trained, but you are a teacher in your own way.

    It’s wonderful to hear that you’ve moved back to Sri Lanka. I was recently there for a short holiday, loved it! It’s such a beautiful place and hoping to have more holidays there. It would be nice if I can communicate in Sinhala on my next trip…that may be asking too much, let’s see!

    Good luck with everything, hope to see more sessions from you.

    • Dilshan Jayasinha November 11, 2013 at 06:19 #

      Hey Kumi, happy to hear that your Sinhala learning is going well. I think when another Sri Lankan commends you on your pronunciation, that’s a HUGE compliment (and indirectly a HUGE compliment to me too). So thank you for letting me know that. Makes me glad.

      Yes, I have moved back here and frankly I’m loving it. I think the main reason is I came back home with reasonable expectations. I think most times people who move back get frustrated quickly because they expect the same thing they’ve been used to abroad, which spoils the entire move back. I think by accepting certain limitations of this beautiful country one will be able to appreciate it more. For example, rather than bitching about the traffic, now whenever I need to be somewhere I leave the house hours and hours before :)

      Speaking Sinhala on your next trip doesn’t have to sound so unrealistic (depending on when of course – I hope you’re not visiting tomorrow for instance). From my side I’ll also do my part and focus on putting up good content. And with your effort, it shouldn’t be that unfathomable, I think.

  17. Wendy June 28, 2014 at 02:30 #

    Interesting to find out about your ‘field of work’ and time in Monaco. You certainly have been busy with ‘landmark decisions’ and all the practicalities involved ! Glad that your move is done and that you almost settled back in Sri lanka amongst family & old friends.

    Your blog and teaching / learning modules are wonderful, much appreciated

    Kind regards
    Wendy

    • Dilshan Jayasinha July 4, 2014 at 20:30 #

      Hi Wendy,

      Thanks for the good wishes and also for the appreciative words about the blog.

      Yes, these last 12 months have been quite the mini adventure for me… But I’ve read somewhere that “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all”…. So I guess I must be doing something right :)

      Take care and thanks for your comment.

  18. Elisabeth August 17, 2014 at 13:35 #

    Hi Dilshan,

    wow am I happy I just discovered your Sinhala Lessons. I have started various times to learn Sinhala (I love languages).

    I have learned Sinhala script through the FSI (Foreign Service) course, and went through the whole course, but since it was not really relevant to daily life, I forgot most of it.

    I really like your easygoing style of spoken drill in everyday Sinhala. Being retired I plan to visit Sri Lanka in the near(ish) future and I always love to be able to speak.

    Thank you so much for making the effort.

    ඔයා වස්තුව (haha, Oyaage ‘love blog’ ekata adharayi – or something like that).

    Very best wishes,

    Elisabeth

    • Dilshan Jayasinha September 2, 2014 at 19:30 #

      Hi Elisabeth, sorry for not responding to this sooner. I somehow missed it. But I know that you have I have communicated through comments on some of the other pages.

      I’m happy that you like my approach. I had no idea that you learned the script. Wow, that’s courageous :)

      Here’s hoping that you do make that trip to Sri Lanka soon. All the best and sorry again for the delay :)

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